Core Beliefs that Cause Self-Sabotage…
We’re doing a series of posts on the five deadliest causes of failure that I’ve discovered in my work. Last post we looked at the number one cause: worthiness issues. I promised to continue the discussion today, and look more specifically on how this could be impacting you, and preventing you from reaching the success you desire.
Let’s begin by investigating core, foundational beliefs.
These are the beliefs that you develop on all the important issues of life. And for most people, once these beliefs are developed, they are never questioned, challenged, or tested again. And that pretty much guarantees you a life of frustration and puzzlement at best, and self-sabotage, misery, even premature death at worst. Because you adopted these important beliefs before you had the abilities of critical thinking, self-awareness, and discernment.
So what are the critical areas you develop these core beliefs? I believe they are:
Here’s the startling, frightening, and very cogent fact: You probably developed your core beliefs in these areas before you were eight years old.
Take beliefs about god or religion for example. If you were raised with programming teaching you that you are a sorry sinner, are not worthy, are meant to suffer in this lifetime, won’t reach enlightenment until another 44 lifetimes, or you’re reincarnated this lifetime to pay penance for a past lifetime – you’re pretty much fucked.
People raised with this type of religious programming – and let’s just admit this is really cult programming – usually grow into adulthood with low self-esteem and worthiness issues. This can lead to self-sabotage behavior in your health, relationships and career. In extreme cases it can lead to death. You develop an addiction and overdose, or a young gay teen takes their life, because they’ve been programmed to think there is something wrong with them.
Let’s look at your beliefs about marriage and relationships. If your parents constantly fight, one spouse cheats on the other, or abuses the other – your core, foundational belief on how relationships work is set by six or seven years old.
Did you grow up believing that sex was dirty and sinful, and should be hidden in the dark?
Were you taught that work was something to be endured for eight hours a day, and then you live your life after?
And of course, of course, we have to look at what you were taught about money…
The best example of meme programming is in the original Spiderman movie, when little orphan Peter Parker was told by his uncle, “We may not be rich, but at least we’re honest!”
Let’s translate that…
Money is bad and rich people are evil. Be glad that we are not rich, because that means we are actually good, noble, salt-of-the-earth people.
And that is the money message you are being assaulted with, literally hundreds of times every single day.
So if your subconscious mind thinks rich people are evil, and your conscious mind is working to become successful, which one do you think wins?
So let’s look at how you can prevent yourself from sabotage. How do you discover the negative beliefs that could be influencing your behavior, even decades later.
You have to ask yourself three questions:
- What are my core beliefs on these subjects?
- How did I come to get them?
- Are they actually true?
And that’s where we’ll pick up on the next post. In the meantime, please ponder the questions and I’d love to hear your comments below. And please share this post!