How Your Self-Sabotage Gets Started
Last post we explored how your well-meaning parents (or others) probably screwed up your life. This is usually done inadvertently, but this doesn’t make the damage any less destructive. (And possibly more so.)
They give you a potential belief. You adopt it. Then that belief becomes a foundation influence on every major decision and action you take for the rest of your life. Seriously.
Your parents tell you one of the evergreen memes about money such as, “We may not be rich, but at least we’re honest.”
You mentally process this as “rich people must be dishonest. I’m glad we’re poor because that means I’m honest. Rich people are bad people, poor people are good people.”
That is a core, foundational belief about money. A limiting belief like this one is reinforced literally millions of times for you, by organized religion, the government, pop culture, mass media, and your friends and family. Then every time you’re exposed to that belief, it’s another impression anchoring it in your subconscious mind. Now every important decision or action you take (or don’t take) is strongly influenced by the filter this belief creates.
You could actually turn down a job when you’re 20, reject a potential investment when you’re 30, and sabotage a promotion when you’re 40 – all because of a belief that you unknowingly adopted when you were six years old.
And you will continue self-sabotaging yourself when you’re 50, 60 and 70, if you don’t break the cycle. That’s where we’ll pick up on the next post. Until then, I’d love to hear your thoughts.